Author Archives: Claire Haye

Warning: this is not PC

If you’re definitely still alive but you think that an important part of you has died, can you hold a memorial for that part of you that feels over or vanished?   I want to have a funeral for my looks. My good looks. …

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 I really can’t take it any more!

 I really can’t take it any more! After all these various shoot-ups and mass murders you would think I would get used to reading about innocent folks being killed doing regular normal things like going to a Garlic Festival or for heaven sake…

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Partings

I live in a small town; I know many of the inhabitants of my community without knowing them well. I count on our friendly random interweaving and mild exchanges. Seen from the corner of my eye   Elaine Sutton ……Lee Driver Let me…

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a poem

For many years my good friends have given a Memorial Party at their lovely home –the group varies somewhat but generally has the same cast of characters. After the party I usually send them a poem as thank you note, but I chose…

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Hey I am getting OLD!

Hey I am getting OLD! Turning 50 years, turning 60 years old, turning 65 years old and well even turning 70 years old…not so bad. I was feeling reasonably good…what is this aging stuff?  Hmmm, not as thin as I used to be,…

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So many funerals

So many funerals… I live in a small town and I am of a certain age. This means people I know seem to be dying off on some unknown but regular schedule. Lately, I have been going to quite a few funerals. I…

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Celebrating…..death

 Celebrating Death Are we always sorry when someone dies? Could we possibly be glad or at least comfortable with their death? I am not talking about the tragic death of children, accident victims, and people taken in their vital years or suicides. Personally, I…

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a lament for unplanned parenthood

Lament for unplanned parenthood My womb has been…. seized By a committee of ole white men with tight eyes blue or grey spare the rod not Control the egg…..power to the sperm   Shall I Lay me down Give birth to Christ…they tell…

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Vulnerable

Vulnerable Years ago when I had a husband I also had a Mother-in-law. We married young- I was twenty-two and Michael was twenty-four. Michael’s mother was also young (I may not have thoughts so at the time) 48 years old and very very…

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“Evolved to Exercise”

“Evolved to Exercise” Today I went to the dentist. Every 90 days I have my teeth cleaned. My body produces an extreme amount of tartar. Seriously, I floss, drench my teeth with a water pic and avidly use my electric toothbrush, but I…

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